THE PROBLEM WITH OFFERING CHIDREN A “CHOICE” In the Family of…
Favoritism
Proof of DOLIF Theory – Part 2
In addition to the factors mentioned in Part 1, support for DOLIF theory comes from its nearly 50-year history and longitudinal design. It is a lifelong project that occupied the author’s personal time, effort and resources for almost half a century. Its…
Proof of DOLIF Theory – Part 1
There are several sources of proof that DOLIF Theory is valid and a realistic method to use both to improve family dynamics in normal families, and for treatment purposes with children and adults. The first practical proof is the application…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 3
If we decide to punish a child using CBT instructions based on animal training, we soon find that the road ahead is a bumpy one, since the leap from animals to humans is massive. For animals, once domesticated, are inclined…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 2
Now that we understand how a child perceives the punishment-based training advocated by CBT and have gained a better appreciation of the contrast between the perception and reception of our actions versus our benevolent intentions, let’s examine our own thoughts, feelings and motivations when we…
Anger – The Forgotten Emotion
Why does DOLIF psychology call Anger “the forgotten Emotion“? If we look at animal behavior, we see that Anger is an important driving force behind behavior. In the animal world we readily find unbridled snarling, teeth-gnashing, snorting and fighting. Yet even though it is…
How Parents and Siblings Really Feel
DOLIF takes account of the childish thinking in the Mind of a Child that is hard for adults to fathom. An aspect of the Mind of a Child that is unknown and unsuspected deals with the way that parents, siblings and in particular, Disfavored people really…
About The Discovery of DOLIF Theory
The study of psychology and the development of DOLIF Theory represents my life work. On graduating from university with a doctorate degree in clinical psychology and after having my first child, I could tell there was something seriously wrong with…
The Origins of DOLIF Theory – My Personal Story
Emerging from an extensive repertoire of case studies gathered over 40 years and through 4 generations, DOLF, the Distribution Of Love in Families, is a theory that focuses on the Mind of a Child, and is built around the critical…
Explaining the DOLIF Formula
In meeting and talking with a client, I am acutely aware of the need to be tactful when introducing DOLIF concepts. Before I broach the topics of Favoritism or SIBLING RIVALRY, I try to make a DOLIF diagnosis of the family by finding out…
The Human Urge to Hide Depression
It seems that humans feel a natural urge to hide feelings of Depression from others. But WHY? The answer reaffirms how Intellectual endowment renders humans so different from animals. Although we don’t really know how animals feel, it seems that the human need to…
The Causes of Mental Illness, Criminal and Child Behavior
THE “WHY” BEHIND ABERRANT BEHAVIOR In DOLIF psychology there are two types of cognition. We are born with the Mind Of A Child where thoughts, decisions and behavior come from the Emotions or our “gut feelings”. At the beginning of…