A Woman Who Wanted to Protect Her Father A young woman of 27 years came in and informed me that she was very depressed. She had spent a three weeks as an in-patient at a hospital. Upon her release, she…
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Parental Jealousy – Father and Son
Parental Jealousy – Father and Son Here are two examples of fathers who had problems with their sons. Due to jealousy from their fathers, both boys felt forced to leave their family home before they were ready to do so. …
Parental Jealousy – Mother And Daughter
Parental Jealousy – Mother And Daughter Cindy was a lovely sixteen-year-old girl who came in with both her parents. She was tall, very pretty, and looked me squarely in the eye as she stepped into my office. Mother and father…
Emotions as Percentages – Anger
As we discussed with Anxiety and Depression in Parts 1 and 2 of Emotions As Percentages, our goal is to create balanced personalities and patterns of behavior in which people interact as “normal” human beings and experience comfortable amounts of Anxiety, Depression and Anger both personally…
Emotions as Percentages – Depression
As discussed in the blog about Anxiety, the intensity of any one of the three negative Emotions can be represented as ranging on a scale from 1 to 100. To continue applying this same model to Depression, at a very low or zero level of…
Emotions as Percentages – Anxiety
We tend to think that a person in good mental health should experience a minimum of the negative feelings of Anxiety, Depression and Anger. That is, for one who is mentally well these 3 Emotions should be at very low levels, or even non-existent. If these negative Emotions were to be…
Treatment Example 2
Following is an illustration of how identifying the Prime Love Giver of a family can help resolve what might be considered a serious mental health problem in a child. A family came to see me with their eight-year-old daughter and…
Creation Part 6 – Conclusions
In the parable about Adam and Eve and their sons Cain and Abel, whether one believes its religious message or not, we begin to see through the DOLF lens that the example of this family could well be thought of as a forewarning of how life…
The DOLF Explanation Of Anger
In DOLF psychology there are 3 essential negative Emotions: Anxiety, Depression and Anger. First, we are all born with an amorphous “cloud” of undefined Emotion. It begins as an overall feeling of Anxiety, which mainly fills us with the feeling fear, a most basic feeling of Anxiety. When we are born we shake,…
Pursuit Of Parental LOVE – Part 2
THE PROBLEM WITH OFFERING CHIDREN A “CHOICE” In the Family of Origin, the first family with our parents and siblings, there exists an invisible world of conflict over LOVE. Children clearly perceive this conflict over the LOVE they sense that emanates from their parents. It is something they worry…
List of Criminals whose crimes can be attributed to Sibling Rivalry
1. Amato, Grant 2. Asvenew, Peter 3. Bishop, Amy 4. Brown, Alvin Bud 5. Caylor, Yvonne 6. Chen, Edward 7. Duck, Kevin 8. Duke, Mark 9. Edwards, Kim (UK) 10. Ellerbee, Richard 11. Ewell, Dana 12. Fry-Pitzen, Amy 13. Hadley,…
Proof of DOLF Theory – Part 2
After almost half a century of empirical observation, this author concluded that opposition between siblings was a constant and reliable factor among the numerous families she observed. It should be noted that these were mainly families whom the author knew…