Identifying the Prime Love Giver can often be the key to diagnosing and resolving a family problem. In this example it not only resolved a very serious mental health problem for a child, but was at the same time highly…
Family Therapy
The Case of Bart Whitaker – Part 1
August 15, 2021 Today I watched a television program on the Identification Discovery (ID) channel. It was about a “perfect” family called the Whitakers who led a very successful, opulent life in Sugar Land, Texas. As a standard four-person family…
Explaining the DOLIF Formula
In talking with my clients, I am acutely aware of the need to be tactful when introducing them to DOLF concepts. To make a DOLF diagnosis, I first try to find the client’s Prime Loving parent, or PLG. I suggest that when they…
A Case of Phobia – The Mice Lady
This is the case of a 22-year-old woman with a serious phobia of mice. She was referred by her boyfriend who was worried that her mental problems were becoming so disruptive that they were leading to physical injuries. She was…
The Case of Ted Kaczynski – the Unabomber
The first example In the American edition of my book is Ted Kaczynski, a.k.a. The Unabomber. This criminal carried on a seventeen-year killing spree by sending mail bombs to prominent, highly educated individuals, killing three and injuring twenty-three. As the reason for his…
Reuniting with the Prime Parent
A young man of 19 years came to see me because he was drinking too much and hanging out with friends who were a bad influence. He was tall, thin and pale and he mainly gazed downward. His parents had…
When Siblings Gang Up
A grandmother came in asking for help with handling her 7-year-old grandson. She said he was about to be expelled from school because the teachers found him impossible to control. She told me several stories about his aggressive behavior, beating…
A Normal Family
Today I went to see a good friend who is a professional, and we chatted casually while she practiced her trade on me. Because we know each other well, I asked about her family, her husband, son of 15 and…
Cases of Identical Twins
A mystery that has long baffled scientists is: How is it that identical or monozygotic twins look exactly alike from the outside and have the same DNA, but are so different on the inside in personality and behavior? Recent studies have searched for slight alterations in their…
The Artists Have It Right
They say that art mimics life, and artists themselves are an intuitive and Emotional group. In movies, books and fairy tales we find recurring themes of competition, Sibling Rivalry, Favoritism and jealousy. For example, East of Eden is a movie based on John Steinbeck’s novel about…
The Case of Alan Hruby – Part 1
The family tragedy of Alan Hruby is a clear case of Favoritism. It happened in 2014, and as a major crime, was reported and reviewed by many television stations. During his high school and college years 19-year-old Alan Hruby, who…
Myth Busting in Child Psychology
Following are six popular myths in psychology that pertain to the way we view our children, how we treat them and how we raise them. MYTH #1 THAT CHILDREN WANT OR NEED QUALITY TIME WITH THEIR PARENTS (This myth has largely…