As we discussed with Anxiety and Depression in Parts 1 and 2 of Emotions As Percentages, our goal is to create balanced personalities and patterns of behavior in which people interact as “normal” human beings and experience comfortable amounts of Anxiety, Depression and Anger both personally…
Theoretical Considerations
Emotions as Percentages – Depression
As discussed in the blog about Anxiety, the intensity of any one of the three negative Emotions can be represented as ranging on a scale from 1 to 100. To continue applying this same model to Depression, at a very low or zero level of…
Emotions as Percentages – Anxiety
We tend to think that a person in good mental health should experience a minimum of the negative feelings of Anxiety, Depression and Anger. That is, for one who is mentally well these 3 Emotions should be at very low levels, or even non-existent. If these negative Emotions were to be…
The DOLF Explanation Of Anger
In DOLF psychology there are 3 essential negative Emotions: Anxiety, Depression and Anger. First, we are all born with an amorphous “cloud” of undefined Emotion. It begins as an overall feeling of Anxiety, which mainly fills us with the feeling fear, a most basic feeling of Anxiety. When we are born we shake,…
Pursuit Of Parental LOVE – Part 2
THE PROBLEM WITH OFFERING CHIDREN A “CHOICE” In the Family of Origin, the first family with our parents and siblings, there exists an invisible world of conflict over LOVE. Children clearly perceive this conflict over the LOVE they sense that emanates from their parents. It is something they worry…
Proof of DOLF Theory – Part 2
After almost half a century of empirical observation, this author concluded that opposition between siblings was a constant and reliable factor among the numerous families she observed. It should be noted that these were mainly families whom the author knew…
Proof of DOLF Theory – Part 1
There are several sources of proof of the validity of DOLF Theory. One powerful proof is the practical application of DOLF to ongoing problems with misbehaving children. When parents, particularly the Prime Love Giving parent or PLG, follows the DOLF…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 3
When we think about HOW to punish a child, if we follow CBT that is based on animal training, there are yet more differences to be pointed out. That is animals, once domesticated, are inclined to try their best to obey their human…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 2
Now that we understand how a child perceives CBT punishment-based training and better appreciate the contrast between this perception and our benevolent intentions, let’s examine our own thoughts, feelings and motivations when we administer punishment to a child. When we see our child throwing their toys…
Anger – The Forgotten Emotion
Why does DOLF psychology call Anger “the forgotten Emotion“? If we look at animal behavior, we see that Anger is an important driving force behind behavior. We find unbridled snarling, teeth-gnashing, snorting and fighting in the animal world. Yet even though it is certain…
How Parents and Siblings Really Feel
The childish thinking that DOLF refers to as the Mind of a Child is hard for adults to fathom. Here is another aspect of the Mind of a Child that begs to be unveiled. I offer it to show the way…
About The Discovery of DOLF Theory
The study of psychology and the development of DOLF Theory represents my life work. On graduating from university with a doctorate degree in clinical psychology and after having my first child, I could tell there was something seriously wrong with…