DOLIF, the Distribution Of Love In Families, represents almost half a century of this author’s research in child development. The theory was a product of Dr. Vera Rabie’s education, professional psychology practice, hands-on experience raising children, and intimate observation and knowledge of four generations of families. Given the…
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A Case of Phobia – The Mice Lady
This is the case of a 22-year-old woman with a serious phobia of mice. She was referred by her boyfriend who was worried that her mental problems were becoming so disruptive that they were leading to physical injuries. She was…
WHY on Earth Did You Do It? – Part 2
To recap from Part 1, the Disfavored personality shows behavior that is under Emotional dominance and lacks policing by the Intellectual faculties. Typical of the Disfavored personality is thinking and behavior that either lacks Social Maturity along the Depression/Anxiety spectrum…
WHY on Earth Did You Do It? – Part 1
In The Mind Of A Child behavior is governed by Emotions and functions very differently from the Adult Mind, which relies on Intellectual logic and reason. Imagine dividing the body at the neck. In the beginning of life when we are babies or little children,…
Creation Part 5 – What is fair, Was it fair, and Is There such a thing as fair??
The story of Cain and Abel is a perfect example of what parents face every day. It begs the question that if Cain felt his Lord’s action was not fair, WHY did he feel that way? WHY was it fair from…
Creation Part 4 – Developing Opposite and Opposing Personalities
DOLIF provides a brand new basis for understanding the development of personality and behavior in human psychology. In essence, it informs us that beginning from early family life, and through instinctive SIBLING RIVALRY, people divide into only two personality types:…
Creation Part 3 – Bragging, Teasing and Humiliation
The story of Cain and Abel is a classic example of SIBLING RIVALRY brought on by a subtle, but very real, variance in parental LOVE. In this biblical tale of Creation about two brothers, their Maker acted as their Prime Love Giving parent or PLG. The offering made by…
Creation Part 2 – A Lesson In Favoritism
DOLIF Theory warns us that the Mind of a Child functions by pure Emotion and Instinct. This is contrary to the Adult Mind that is governed by Intelligence, reason and logic. DOLIF alerts us that the first two children in any family are perpetually wrapped up…
The Case of Ted Kaczynski – the Unabomber
The first example In the American edition of my book is Ted Kaczynski, a.k.a. The Unabomber. This criminal carried on a seventeen-year killing spree by sending mail bombs to prominent, highly educated individuals, killing three and injuring twenty-three. As the reason for his…
Reuniting with the Prime Parent
A young man of 19 years came to see me because he was drinking too much and hanging out with friends who were a bad influence. He was tall, thin and pale and he mainly gazed downward. His parents had…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 1
When a child misbehaves, such as by hitting others, stealing or smoking cigarettes, current psychology directs parents to use Cognitive Behavioral methods, or CBT. It makes logical sense to parents when CBT advises them to act as a team, decide on consequences or punishment, and follow through with…
Creation Part 1 – The Power Of Parental Love
The story of Creation in the Judeo-Christian bible is reviewed here not because of its religious significance, but because it is a familiar example of a four-person family in which serious interpersonal problems developed. According to the first book of the bible, Genesis, the Lord…