In the parable about Adam and Eve and their sons Cain and Abel, whether one believes its religious message or not, we begin to see through the DOLF lens that the example of this family could well be thought of as a forewarning of how life…
Vera Rabie
The DOLIF Explanation Of Anger
In DOLIF psychology there are 3 essential negative Emotions: Anxiety, Depression and Anger. These three Emotions are built into every person and ready to be used and expressed from the time of birth. The human endowment that complements Emotions is Intellectual potential. This Intellectual power is also immediately available at birth….
List of Criminals whose crimes can be attributed to Sibling Rivalry
1. Amato, Grant 2. Asvenew, Peter 3. Bishop, Amy 4. Brown, Alvin Bud 5. Caylor, Yvonne 6. Chen, Edward 7. Duck, Kevin 8. Duke, Mark 9. Edwards, Kim (UK) 10. Ellerbee, Richard 11. Ewell, Dana 12. Fry-Pitzen, Amy 13. Hadley,…
Proof of DOLIF Theory – Part 2
In addition to the factors mentioned in Part 1, support for DOLIF theory comes from its nearly 50-year history and longitudinal design. It is a lifelong project that occupied the author’s personal time, effort and resources for almost half a century. Its…
Proof of DOLIF Theory – Part 1
There are several sources of proof that DOLIF Theory is valid and a realistic method to use both to improve family dynamics in normal families, and for treatment purposes with children and adults. The first practical proof is the application…
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DOLF stands for the DISTRIBUTION OF LOVE IN FAMILIES. VERA RABIE, Doctor of Psychology, uncovered a new psychological domain called the Mind of a Child that changes our understanding of the human mind. DOLF is like a stream of consciousness that follows Emotions instead of intellect because that…
A Boy Who Was Hurting Animals
A mother came in with her eight-year-old boy. They both looked sad and angry, the boy frowning. He did not look at me when I greeted him, and when he sat down, turned his head toward the window. The mother…
Phase 4 – How Favoritism Develops
In DOLIF psychology instinctual SIBLING RIVALRY and parental Favoritism give rise to divergence in personality and behavior among adjacent siblings. But exactly HOW does this come about? It is well understood that parents have the best intentions to raise their children so they can be proud of them. If…
Phase 3 – The Development Of Personality And Behavior
Acting on instinct, Emotion-driven thought and primitive reasoning that confines them to their Mind of a Child, the first two children are both burdened by their immature perception of a limited amount of parental LOVE and consumed by their desperation…
Phase 2 – The Beginning Of Sibling Relations
After a year or two, family relationships become settled. PLG and Child 1 engage in a LOVING relationship in their Inner Circle of Love, while the Outer Circle of Love includes the ALG who provides Support, Stability and Security. Over time,…
Phase 1 – The Division Of Parental Roles
As soon as a first child is born, a critical Emotional decision is made that is vital to children but difficult for adults to understand. Parents divide into one…