The childish thinking that DOLF refers to as the Mind of a Child is hard for adults to fathom. Here is another aspect of the Mind of a Child that begs to be unveiled. I offer it to show the way…
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The Case of Bart Whitaker – Part 2
When reporter Lisa Ling interviewed Bart Whitaker in 2015, her first question was the one on everybody’s mind: “WHY did you do it?” To this Bart clearly replied that, even more compelling than the pressure to live up to his family’s…
About The Discovery of DOLIF Theory
The study of psychology and the development of DOLIF Theory represents my life work. On graduating from university with a doctorate degree in clinical psychology and after having my first child, I could tell there was something seriously wrong with…
The Origins of DOLIF Theory – My Personal Story
Emerging from an extensive repertoire of case studies gathered over 40 years and through 4 generations, DOLF, the Distribution Of Love in Families, is a theory that focuses on the Mind of a Child, and is built around the critical…
Anorexia & Eating Disorders – Part 2
The grave misunderstanding in the treatment of Eating Disorders such as Anorexia, Obesity or Bulimia is that the struggle does not concern eating at all! To believe that an Anorexic only needs to be taught how to eat, spend hours convincing…
Anorexia & Eating Disorders – Part 1
Anorexia is the most serious of the eating disorders because it deprives the body of essential nourishment, which can bring its owner close to death. When the brain has limited nutrients, thinking and judgement become impaired. Similar behaviors such as…
A Young Man Who Refused to be Controlled by his Mother
A large, strapping 18-year-old boy and his mother stepped into my office. They had been referred by a physician who worked in the same company as the mother, where she held a high administrative position. As mother and son walked…
Why People Lie
DOLF makes it clear that, contrary to popular belief in current psychology, punishment, discipline, consequences, policing and even the fear of being physically attacked, are NOT deterrents to Angry, rebellious behavior! This is because, when misbehavior occurs, there are powerful…
A Clumsy Boy
A large and clumsy-looking 15-year-old boy came in with his mother. He had learning disabilities that had been accurately diagnosed through his school. Testing showed he had poor fine motor skills, which affected his ability to read, write and communicate…
A Suicidal Son
Identifying the Prime Love Giver can often be the key to diagnosing and resolving a family problem. In this example it not only resolved a very serious mental health problem for a child, but was at the same time highly…
The Case of Bart Whitaker – Part 1
August 15, 2021 Today I watched a television program on the Identification Discovery (ID) channel. It was about a “perfect” family called the Whitakers who led a very successful, opulent life in Sugar Land, Texas. As a standard four-person family…
Explaining the DOLIF Formula
In talking with my clients, I am acutely aware of the need to be tactful when introducing them to DOLF concepts. To make a DOLF diagnosis, I first try to find the client’s Prime Loving parent, or PLG. I suggest that when they…