THE PROBLEM WITH OFFERING CHIDREN A “CHOICE” In the Family of…
Therapy
Proof of DOLIF Theory – Part 2
In addition to the factors mentioned in Part 1, support for DOLIF theory comes from its nearly 50-year history and longitudinal design. It is a lifelong project that occupied the author’s personal time, effort and resources for almost half a century. Its origin is…
Proof of DOLIF Theory – Part 1
There are several sources of proof of the validity of DOLIF Theory. One practical proof is the application of DOLIF to ongoing problems with misbehaving children. When parents, particularly the Prime Love Giving parent or PLG, follows the DOLIF prescription…
A Boy Who Was Hurting Animals
A mother came in with her eight-year-old boy. They both looked sad and angry, the boy frowning. He did not look at me when I greeted him, and when he sat down, turned his head toward the window. The mother…
Two Case Studies of 4-Sibling Families
Here are two real-life examples of 4-sibling families whom this author observed from the time they were growing up, a span of about 20 years each. The first family came to see me when they had only two children and…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 3
When we think about HOW to punish a child, if we follow CBT that is based on animal training, there are yet more differences to be pointed out. That is animals, once domesticated, are inclined to try their best to obey their human…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 2
Now that we understand how a child perceives CBT punishment-based training and better appreciate the contrast between this perception and our benevolent intentions, let’s examine our own thoughts, feelings and motivations when we administer punishment to a child. When we see our child throwing their toys…
The Case of Alan Hruby – Part 2 – The Significance of MONEY in Disfavor
The question of WHY Alan Hruby became obsessed with MONEY is one that applies to many people who are Disfavored. Alan’s behavior in regard to MONEY is actually a universal situation. He did what a great majority of Disfavored people do when they cannot…
Anger – The Forgotten Emotion
Why does DOLIF psychology call Anger “the forgotten Emotion“? If we look at animal behavior, we see that Anger is an important driving force behind behavior. We find unbridled snarling, teeth-gnashing, snorting and fighting in the animal world. Yet even though it is certain…
Anorexia Part 3 – Case Study of an Anorexic
In one instance of severe Anorexia a young woman aged 19 was an in-patient on the psychiatric ward of a hospital. Despite undergoing treatment for nearly two years with two different therapists, there was little change in her status. There…
A Successful Woman and Her Brother
A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN AND HER BROTHER In one case, a highly accomplished woman in her 40’s came to seek advice about her brother. She had an elderly mother, the father was deceased and a brother who was six years older….
Case Study with a Disabled Child
A gentleman came into my office, and after seating himself, said: “I have a problem but it’s not about me – it’s about my kids.” He related that he has two children: a nine-year-old son who is well and attends…