The story of Cain and Abel is a perfect example of what parents face every day. It begs the question that if Cain felt his Lord’s action was not fair, WHY did he feel that way? WHY was it fair from…
Sibling Rivalry
Creation Part 4 – Developing Opposite and Opposing Personalities
DOLIF provides a brand new basis for understanding the development of personality and behavior in human psychology. In essence, it informs us that beginning from early family life, and through instinctive SIBLING RIVALRY, people divide into only two personality types:…
Creation Part 2 – A Lesson In Favoritism
DOLIF Theory warns us that the Mind of a Child functions by pure Emotion and Instinct. This is contrary to the Adult Mind that is governed by Intelligence, reason and logic. DOLIF alerts us that the first two children in any family are perpetually wrapped up…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 1
When a child misbehaves, such as by hitting others, stealing or smoking cigarettes, current psychology directs parents to use Cognitive Behavioral methods, or CBT. It makes logical sense to parents when CBT advises them to act as a team, decide on consequences or punishment, and follow through with…
Creation Part 1 – The Power Of Parental Love
The story of Creation in the Judeo-Christian bible is reviewed here not because of its religious significance, but because it is a familiar example of a four-person family in which serious interpersonal problems developed. According to the first book of the bible, Genesis, the Lord…
The (Thorny) Question of Research
The question of why DOLIF theory grew out of experience and empirical observation rather than conventional laboratory research is one I am continually asked. First, I am filled with gratitude for the years of academic training that gave the groundwork for my interminable curiosity about…
The Artists Have It Right
They say that art mimics life, and artists themselves are an intuitive and Emotional group. In movies, books and fairy tales we find recurring themes of competition, Sibling Rivalry, Favoritism and jealousy. For example, East of Eden is a movie based on John Steinbeck’s novel about…