THE PROBLEM WITH OFFERING CHIDREN A “CHOICE” In the Family of…
Family Psychology
Proof of DOLIF Theory – Part 2
In addition to the factors mentioned in Part 1, support for DOLIF theory comes from its nearly 50-year history and longitudinal design. It is a lifelong project that occupied the author’s personal time, effort and resources for almost half a century. Its origin is…
Proof of DOLIF Theory – Part 1
There are several sources of proof of the validity of DOLIF Theory. One practical proof is the application of DOLIF to ongoing problems with misbehaving children. When parents, particularly the Prime Love Giving parent or PLG, follows the DOLIF prescription…
The Rest Of The Sibline
How does Sibling Rivalry take place and how is Favoritism distributed in a family of 5 children, or more? As discussed in the blogs about 3 siblings (The Third Child, Third Child Concerns, and The Case Of A Third Daughter With A…
The Case Of A Third Daughter With A Severe Anxiety Disorder
A set of concerned parents came to see me with their 8-year-old daughter, the youngest of 3 girls. From our first introduction, it was obvious that the girl had many nervous twitches, such as blinking her eyes, gnashing her teeth…
Vulnerable Third-Born Girls In A Series Of Three Girls
A Case of Three Daughters A woman came into my office and, before we could say our greetings, began sobbing. She was 68 years of age and said she had had a good life raising her 3 daughters. She said…
Third Child Concerns
Often talked about and popularized by Birth Order Theory is the “middle child syndrome” that describes middle children as the most agitated and bothersome because they are believed to be ‘squeezed’ between the first and last and get the least…
The Fourth Child
DOLF follows the flow of Emotions, specifically MORE LOVE and LESS LOVE, starting with the basic model of a family with two parents and two children. In DOLF the standard pattern in any family is that one of the first two children forms…
The Third Child
DOLF is a standard, universal and predictable formula. As per the diagram below, it does not change except with the addition of more children. This is because it gets its structure NOT from our common imaginings or personal opinions about behavior, but from the…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 3
When we think about HOW to punish a child, if we follow CBT that is based on animal training, there are yet more differences to be pointed out. That is animals, once domesticated, are inclined to try their best to obey their human…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 2
Now that we understand how a child perceives CBT punishment-based training and better appreciate the contrast between this perception and our benevolent intentions, let’s examine our own thoughts, feelings and motivations when we administer punishment to a child. When we see our child throwing their toys…
Anger – The Forgotten Emotion
Why does DOLIF psychology call Anger “the forgotten Emotion“? If we look at animal behavior, we see that Anger is an important driving force behind behavior. We find unbridled snarling, teeth-gnashing, snorting and fighting in the animal world. Yet even though it is certain…