Emerging from an extensive repertoire of case studies gathered over 40 years and through 4 generations, DOLF, the Distribution Of Love in Families, is a theory that focuses on the Mind of a Child, and is built around the critical…
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Anorexia & Eating Disorders – Part 2
The grave misunderstanding in the treatment of Eating Disorders such as Anorexia, Obesity or Bulimia is that the struggle does not concern eating at all! To believe that an Anorexic only needs to be taught how to eat, spend hours convincing…
Anorexia & Eating Disorders – Part 1
Anorexia is the most serious of the eating disorders because it deprives the body of essential nourishment, which can bring its owner close to death. When the brain has limited nutrients, thinking and judgement become impaired. Similar behaviors such as…
A Young Man Who Refused to be Controlled by his Mother
A large, strapping 18-year-old boy and his mother stepped into my office. They had been referred by a physician who worked in the same company as the mother, where she held a high administrative position. As mother and son walked…
Why People Lie
DOLIF makes it clear that, contrary to popular belief in current psychology, discipline, punishment, consequences, policing and even the fear of being physically harmed are NOT deterrents to Angry, rebellious behavior! This is because, when misbehavior occurs, there are powerful…
A Clumsy Boy
A large and clumsy-looking 15-year-old boy came in with his mother. He had learning disabilities that had been accurately diagnosed through his school. Testing showed he had poor fine motor skills, which affected his ability to read, write and communicate…
A Suicidal Son
Identifying the Prime Love Giver can often be the key to diagnosing and resolving a family problem. In this example it not only resolved a very serious mental health problem for a child, but was at the same time highly…
The Case of Bart Whitaker – Part 1
August 15, 2021 Today I watched a television program on the Identification Discovery (ID) channel. It was about a “perfect” family called the Whitakers who led a very successful, opulent life in Sugar Land, Texas. As a standard four-person family…
Explaining the DOLIF Formula
In meeting and talking with a client, I am acutely aware of the need to be tactful when introducing DOLIF concepts. Before I broach the topics of Favoritism or SIBLING RIVALRY, I try to make a DOLIF diagnosis of the family by finding out…
The Human Urge to Hide Depression
It seems that humans feel a natural urge to hide feelings of Depression from others. But WHY? The answer reaffirms how Intellectual endowment renders humans so different from animals. Although we don’t really know how animals feel, it seems that the human need to…
The Causes of Mental Illness, Criminal and Child Behavior
THE “WHY” BEHIND ABERRANT BEHAVIOR In DOLIF psychology there are two types of cognition. We are born with the Mind Of A Child where thoughts, decisions and behavior come from the Emotions or our “gut feelings”. At the beginning of…
The Key to Motivation
Our lives are riddled with Competition, Rivalry and outright Jealousy! DOLIF alerts us that the urge to compete is is embedded at the primal level of the human psyche. It is a drive that is as archaic as our DNA and…