DOLF follows the flow of Emotions, specifically MORE LOVE and LESS LOVE, starting with the basic model of a family with two parents and two children. In DOLF the standard pattern in any family is that one of the first two children forms…
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The Third Child
DOLF is a standard, universal and predictable formula. As per the diagram below, it does not change except with the addition of more children. This is because it gets its structure NOT from our common imaginings or personal opinions about behavior, but from the…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 3
When we think about HOW to punish a child, if we follow CBT that is based on animal training, there are yet more differences to be pointed out. That is animals, once domesticated, are inclined to try their best to obey their human…
Parental Anger and CBT – Part 2
Now that we understand how a child perceives CBT punishment-based training and better appreciate the contrast between this perception and our benevolent intentions, let’s examine our own thoughts, feelings and motivations when we administer punishment to a child. When we see our child throwing their toys…
The Case of Alan Hruby – Part 2 – The Significance of MONEY in Disfavor
The question of WHY Alan Hruby became obsessed with MONEY is one that applies to many people who are Disfavored. Alan’s behavior in regard to MONEY is actually a universal situation. He did what a great majority of Disfavored people do when they cannot…
Anger – The Forgotten Emotion
Why does DOLIF psychology call Anger “the forgotten Emotion“? If we look at animal behavior, we see that Anger is an important driving force behind behavior. We find unbridled snarling, teeth-gnashing, snorting and fighting in the animal world. Yet even though it is certain…
Anorexia Part 3 – Case Study of an Anorexic
In one instance of severe Anorexia a young woman aged 19 was an in-patient on the psychiatric ward of a hospital. Despite undergoing treatment for nearly two years with two different therapists, there was little change in her status. There…
A Successful Woman and Her Brother
A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN AND HER BROTHER In one case, a highly accomplished woman in her 40’s came to seek advice about her brother. She had an elderly mother, the father was deceased and a brother who was six years older….
Case Study with a Disabled Child
A gentleman came into my office, and after seating himself, said: “I have a problem but it’s not about me – it’s about my kids.” He related that he has two children: a nine-year-old son who is well and attends…
How Parents and Siblings Really Feel
The childish thinking that DOLF refers to as the Mind of a Child is hard for adults to fathom. Here is another aspect of the Mind of a Child that begs to be unveiled. I offer it to show the way…
The Case of Bart Whitaker – Part 2
When reporter Lisa Ling interviewed Bart Whitaker in 2015, her first question was the one on everybody’s mind: “WHY did you do it?” To this Bart clearly replied that, even more compelling than the pressure to live up to his family’s…
About The Discovery of DOLIF Theory
The study of psychology and the development of DOLIF Theory represents my life work. On graduating from university with a doctorate degree in clinical psychology and after having my first child, I could tell there was something seriously wrong with…